Death Bed Questions is a conversation deck for life, love, memory and everything that matters before it’s too late.
Explore six deeply themed decks designed to help you ask, listen and connect more honestly with the people you love.
Death Bed Questions began as a personal act of healing – a way to ask the questions I never got to ask my Dad, my Mum, my team who died in 9/11, and my love Tim, before they were gone.
In those moments of loss, I realised that what we long for most is not more time, but more truth. The unspoken stories. The laughter never shared. The wisdom that leaves with them too soon.
After each one died I remember laying in bed and these questions would swirl but with no way of answering them. So, I began to write the questions to help you and those you love. What started as grief slowly became a beautiful gift of light and love – a collection of essential life conversations we all need to have before it’s too late.
Each card is an invitation to ask deeply, listen wholly and love courageously.
As a guide for end-of-life conversations
You may draw one, two or more cards a day, choose a theme, or move through the decks slowly on your own or together with family, friends or those supporting end of life care.
• No Judgment • No Rush • Sacred Space
Each deck contains 53 carefully written questions, for a total of 318 questions. When my mum was dying, I had 5 months to say goodbye. Every night after work I went to the hospital and we would sit with a cup of tea or a cold fanta and ice cream on the hot nights and we managed to work our way through all of them, sometimes it was just one question other days we would power through 10 or more, our conversations were rich and peppered with things we’d never explored before in life. It helped us both to say goodbye and heal whilst we could. The memories are one of my most treasured possessions.
Death Bed Questions can be used as a professional therapeutic and end-of-life support tool.
These questions can act as a doorway to healing, reconciliation, and peace.
