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How to Use  the Decks

A session with Death Bed Questions is not about rushing or finding perfect answers. It is about presence, honesty and listening.
  • How to Use  the Decks
Allow time. Light a candle, dim the lights, put on some soulful music if it feels right. Create a space that feels calm and safe.
01 Set the Intention
Before you begin, take a moment to breathe together.

You may say:

“Today, we open ourselves to truth, to memory, and to whatever needs to be spoken or heard.”

Agree together that:

• There is no judgement
• There is no rush
• Silence is welcome
• Passing is allowed
If emotions run high, it’s ok to pause, to breathe, to step away, to take a break, to allow the tears and return or take a new question. This is supposed to be a sacred, kind and gentle space.
You can approach the cards in different ways:
• Choose one card intuitively
• Select a deck that matches the feeling of the moment
• Take turns choosing cards for each other
• Move sequentially through a deck
• Allow the person answering to choose
• Shuffle cards and see what pops out
There is no correct way. Follow what feels right in the moment.
Read the question gently, out loud.
Give the person time. Let them sit with it. Do not interrupt. Do not hurry them.

If emotions rise, let them.

If silence comes, honour it.

You are not here to fix or correct. You are here to witness.
After the answer has been shared, you may respond with kindness:
“Thank you for sharing that.”
“I’ve never heard that before.”
“That helps me understand you more.”
If it feels right, you may ask one gentle follow up question, but only if the space feels safe.
End the session with something soft and grounding:
• A hug
• A shared breath
• A final thank you
• A moment of silence
If using the cards alone, consider journalling what came up and how it made you feel.
These conversations are sacred. They are not meant to be rushed or over-processed. Let them settle in your heart.
Ritual Opening Script
Before you begin, create a moment of stillness. You may wish to light a candle, hold hands, or sit in silence for a few breaths. Then softly say:

“We come into this space with open hearts and gentle minds. We honour what has been lived, what has been loved, and what has shaped us. In this moment, there is no past and no future, only truth, only presence, only now. May our words be kind, our listening be deep, and love guide what is shared.”

Pause. Breathe together. Begin when it feels right.
Ritual Closing Script
When the session feels complete, you may say:
“We honour what has been spoken and what has been felt. We thank each other for courage, for honesty and for listening. May what has been shared settle gently in our hearts, and may love continue to move through us.”
You may finish with a hug, a hand over the heart, silence, or your own words of thanks.
Toast & Blessing
Lift a cup, a glass of water, tea, wine or simply your hands and say:
“To the stories that shaped us. To the love that held us. To the memories that live on. To truth, to healing and to every moment we have left together. May we speak with honesty and love without regret.”
Then drink, breathe, and remain together in quiet presence.